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Nidarshana Sharma

Balancing between the Motherhood and CareerIt is every woman’s dream to marry and have a beautiful family. She aspires to be a good mother to her children and give them all the happiness in the world and spend time with them.

However, lately there has been a surge in the number of women working and pursuing a serious career. They don’t have time for anything else but their work. Their lives center around their workplace and everything else becomes secondary. Though, women are largely known to be good multi-taskers, they’re unable to.

In such a scenario, how can a woman be a good mother to her children? An increasing percentage of women rely on nannies, governesses and creches to take care of their children. But nothing or nobody can be substitute for a mother. Often, children in such cases, feel neglected and ignored. This affects their esteem and confidence. As a result, they become defensive and aggressive.

Today, a number of husbands are taking the initiative and supporting their busy wives. They don’t mind staying at home and spending time with their children. But there are still a lot of men, who believe the wife must watch over the kids.

A few tips to maintain the right balance between your job and your family

  • Time management is the key. It is very important to maintain a schedule and work according to it.
  • Don’t bring much of your office work home. It can be a spoiler.
  • When at home, spend as much time talking to your children and helping them out with their school work.
  • Make sure the children are engaged in some activity but at the same time also are not hard-pressed for time.
  • Play a lot of games with your family, both indoor and outdoor.
  • You could sometimes take them to your workplace. Some offices do have a separate cabin for children of working women and they can spend time with other children.
  • Hire a maid to do the household chores. This will give you more time with the kids.

In addition, take your children out. Socialize, meet your friends and relatives frequently and keep your children around people often.

More women these days are okay with taking time off work for a few months and taking care of their children. Once the child has settled into the groove, they gradually resume their work. This shift, though a risky one, is now being widely accepted.

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{November 11, 2010}   HOW TO INCULCATE ETHICS IN KIDS ?

by – Sadhana Chaturvedi

Everyone wants their kids to grow up to be fine citizens of the country, of the world. To make sure that this happens, parents mustHOW TO INCULCATE ETHICS IN KIDS take up the responsibility of inculcating ethics in their kids from their early days. To the first child parents, this task seems to be quite daunting , but just learn from the experienced parents.When you think back, it is your parents who taught you how to love, so be assured that you can do the same for your child. There is no definite “method” as such to teach ethics to kids. It should be gradual and by way of example and constant attention to your child.
All religions preach the same moral values, so if you want to initiate your kids to your religion, talk to them about it. Tell them interesting stories from your holy books. Take them along when you go to your place of worship.

Kids learn the most from someone who they look up to, love and who they are around always, YOU. Display good ethics and be just in whatever it is that you do. Teach by way  of example. This is the best way to show your kids how to take the right, moral decisions from a young age. It would be pointless if you tell your child to answer the phone and “Tell whoever it is  I’m not home”  while you’re preaching to them about honesty.

Monitor your child’s activities. Whenever they’re doing something wrong, tell them so. Make it clear to them  that you do not approve of such things. Don’t let them watch cartoons or television programs unsuited for their age. At the same time, reward your child when they do something right. This gives them an incentive to do the right thing always, and it gradually becomes a habit.

Some times, kids really don’t know better and they take to lying. It may be about small inconsequential things or bigger things, and they may even think they are just jokes. Some children are unsure of the difference between lying and telling funny stories. Explain to your child that lying is any tale made up either to impress others or keep from getting into trouble and often creates more problems than just being honest. Help your child to understand that lying is not a good trait and hurts people’s feelings.

If your child continues to lie, help him learn through consequences. Use punishments to coincide with lies. When your child lies to you or others, give him punishments like lessening their favourite activity’s time or for younger children, time-outs.  On the other hand, if your child is honest with you, reward him. Tell him how proud you are that he told you the truth and give him something he enjoys such as time with you, movie night, or even out for ice cream.

Talk to your child about their daily activities, and if they are doing anything wrong, or if they’re confused about what to do, guide them along. Yelling will get you no where, even if your kids are very young. Discuss with them what they’re doing is wrong and why it is wrong and how they can rectify it.

There are many children’s books in the market which teach kids about honesty, sharing and caring through a series of beautiful illustrations and simple words. Encourage your kids to read them, or read them out your self at bed time so that they get a good bed-time story and some good moral values!

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{November 11, 2010}   Trying to be the perfect parent

By –

Nidarshana Sharma

Isn’t it a great feeling when your children proudly declare, “I have the best mom and dad in the entire world”. It brings to light notTrying to be the perfect parent. just how much they love you, but also how much you have succeeded as a parent. It indicated how much effort you have put in to keep your children happy and how much attention you have paid to their every little whim and fancy.

Being a parent is not an easy task. And being the perfect parent is even tougher. It is not impossible though. It just requires that extra percentage of dedication and commitment from you. After all, our lives would have no meaning if our children weren’t happy.

Is it easy to be the perfect parent? It most certainly is. Being the perfect parent is all about being the perfect guide to your children. Whether it is loving them, feeding them, teaching them or even learning from them, do it perfectly. All of us do want to do everything in our might for our children. But unfortunately, we have too many constraints which bind us. Whether it is time or health, there is always a reason that stops us from continuing our race to be the perfect parent. But that doesn’t make it difficult. It’s just that there are constantly many hurdles which we need cross to get to the end.

Remember, it isn’t enough if you buy your kids expensive gifts or take them out every day or go fishing with them. While these are undoubtedly to be done by all of us, we must make an attempt to get to know our child and making them a lovable and decent person. Not just that, we must try to understand them, talk to them and be their friend. Your child must never feel shy or scared about confiding in you. They must be capable of sharing everything with you because only then will they know that they have you for support. Listen to your child patiently and do not form judgments. You also talk to your him/her about your day at work or your lazy boss or that fat lady crossing the road. This will strengthen the bond that you share which will continually get bigger and stronger.

As a parent, you must recognize your child’s talents and strengths. Always encourage your child. Don’t label. Try not use names like good-for-nothing, ruffian, shabby, stubborn, argumentative etc. This will either make your child more rebellious or push him/her away from you. Instead, try reasoning with him/her and patiently make him/her understand the value of good behavior and morals.

Make your child read books and magazines. Provide him/her with various positive and useful inputs. Buy him/her interesting games which are not only fun but also can sharpen his/her mind. Play games or sports with him/her and try to be as competitive as you can. Monitor your child’s activities and friends circle. Restrict the usage of internet and make sure he/she accesses it only when you are around.

Being the parent is all about showing that you care in the right way. So show your child that he has the perfect mom and dad.

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Nidarshana Sharma

Oct-22-2010

-by Nidarshana Sharma

We all want our children to be self-confident and content. We want them to make good friends and learn from others. We want them to interact with people of different backgrounds so that they understand others better. We want them to sharpen their skills and constantly improvise and strive to be the best. In a nutshell, we want our children to stand out and be a winner.

Quite unfortunately, while most of us know what we want of our children, often we fail to realize how they can go about getting to the top. We do recognize that our child must be encouraged to open up but we don’t see how we can do it. Being a winner is not just about building your strengths, but it also means identifying and rectifying your weaknesses. As a parent, how can you ensure that your child is walking on the right path? You need to analyze your child’s core weaknesses and help him/her overcome them.

Many children have many different kinds of shortcomings. One could be short-tempered and the typical tantrum-throwing child, while the other could simply be disinterested in everything. The most problematic among these is breeding an inferiority complex.

What is an inferiority complex? It is a feeling in one’s mind that he/she is inferior to others in some way. It is natural for us to feel inferior to some people due to various reasons. But an inferiority complex is an extended feeling of discouragement which is not easy to overcome. Often when we feel inferior, we compensate for it by working harder and pushing ourselves to the brim to achieve something. This gives a feeling of accomplishment and we feel good and confident about ourselves. But a person who suffers from a complex may not be in the right state of mind to walk that extra mile to prove himself/herself. In the process, he/she might start pretending to be very confident or just get into a shell.

An inferiority complex could have many causes. A child may be a victim of domestic or emotional abuse. Also before a child turns six, they has very high retention power. Whatever the child is taught then, he/she grows up to remember that. If you reprimand your child regularly or taunt/ mock him/her or constantly point out his/her shortcomings, it is likely that the child feels low about himself/herself. Sometimes, a physical or a mental defect is also a reason to feel inferior. Many a time, social factors also play a role. A girl child who is constantly shunned for being so, may grow up to be very timid and meek.

As parents, we must make sure that however our child is, we must encourage him/her and never let him/her down. Nobody in this world is perfect and we have no right to remind others of their weaknesses when we ourselves are filled with many. If your child is very submissive or scared to talk or socialize then you know that he/she needs to get rid of that inferiority complex. Similarly, if your child is too aggressive or rebellious or over-confident, talk to them her and explain the importance of being confident and sure. Humility and politeness are two traits that you must master and also teach your children. Listen to your children, let them do their own thing, show them cartoons or read to them stories about bravery and boldness. Teach them to be straightforward and open. Be nice to them and never discourage them. Do not call them names but be as positive as you can. When your child is surrounded by a cheerful and positive environment, they will surely be infected by it and be a star!

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{October 5, 2010}   HOW TO INCULCATE ETHICS IN KIDS

HOW TO INCULCATE ETHICS IN KIDS

HOW TO INCULCATE ETHICS IN KIDS

Everyone wants their kids to grow up to be fine citizens of the country, of the world. To make sure that this happens, parents must take up the responsibility of inculcating ethics in their kids from their early days. To the first child parents, this task seems to be quite daunting , but just learn from the experienced parents.When you think back, it is your parents who taught you how to love, so be assured that you can do the same for your child. There is no definite “method” as such to teach ethics to kids. It should be gradual and by way of example and constant attention to your child.

All religions preach the same moral values, so if you want to initiate your kids to your religion, talk to them about it. Tell them interesting stories from your holy books. Take them along when you go to your place of worship.

Kids learn the most from someone who they look up to, love and who they are around always, YOU. Display good ethics and be just in whatever it is that you do. Teach by way  of example. This is the best way to show your kids how to take the right, moral decisions from a young age. It would be pointless if you tell your child to answer the phone and “Tell whoever it is  I’m not home”  while you’re preaching to them about honesty.

Monitor your child’s activities. Whenever they’re doing something wrong, tell them so. Make it clear to them  that you do not approve of such things. Don’t let them watch cartoons or television programs unsuited for their age. At the same time, reward your child when they do something right. This gives them an incentive to do the right thing always, and it gradually becomes a habit.

Some times, kids really don’t know better and they take to lying. It may be about small inconsequential things or bigger things, and they may even think they are just jokes. Some children are unsure of the difference between lying and telling funny stories. Explain to your child that lying is any tale made up either to impress others or keep from getting into trouble and often creates more problems than just being honest. Help your child to understand that lying is not a good trait and hurts people’s feelings.

If your child continues to lie, help him learn through consequences. Use punishments to coincide with lies. When your child lies to you or others, give him punishments like lessening their favourite activity’s time or for younger children, time-outs.  On the other hand, if your child is honest with you, reward him. Tell him how proud you are that he told you the truth and give him something he enjoys such as time with you, movie night, or even out for ice cream.

Talk to your child about their daily activities, and if they are doing anything wrong, or if they’re confused about what to do, guide them along. Yelling will get you no where, even if your kids are very young. Discuss with them what they’re doing is wrong and why it is wrong and how they can rectify it.

There are many children’s books in the market which teach kids about honesty, sharing and caring through a series of beautiful illustrations and simple words. Encourage your kids to read them, or read them out your self at bed time so that they get a good bed-time story and some good moral values!

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