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by – Nidarshana Sharma

inculcate internet awareness in kidsThe Internet is today’s most widely used medium worldwide.Everyperson has a connection with the Internet.They use it to connect with their closed one’s,for shopping,for sending greetings across the globe.For any job under the sun,all of us depend on the Internet.It has become the most powerful tool for the many.

Taking the Internet’s omnipresence into consideration,it is essential that we also teach our children to use this wonderful device.Albeit the utility of the Internet,it is also the most over exploited medium,which makes it unsafe for use by children,who are very tender and sensitive.A child’s reception is much stronger than that of an adult’s and they are incapable of distinguishing between the right and the wrong stimuli,which can lead to disastrous consequences.Thus, we must be very cautious while exposing our children to stuff on the net.

What needs to be told to them is the vast network that the Internet has created around the world.Thousands of new sites are born everyday which contains vast amount of information.On the contrary,there are also websites which can be of harm to your child, from which they are to be protected.

A large number of encyclopedias have online versions,which consists of interesting facts.Some websites also provide tutorials in math,grammar and other subjects with much fun.The Internet is also chockablock with games and other activities which aid in enhancing your child’s intelligence.These must be introduced to them.At the same time,you must also ensure that your child does not become addicted to them.

The Internet has been a boon to many individuals and families alike.In many home,it has played the role of a teacher or a baby-sitter or even a guide.However,much criticism has been hurled at it.For starters,it has been criticized of making children lazy and lethargic.It has also been accused of exposing the child to abusive content.A virtual world which is more like fantasy has been thrown open to children who quite unmindfully have become a part of it and have slowly been forgetting the real world.

In order to overcome these problems,it is important for the parents to explain both the pros and cons of overusing the Internet,to their child.They must closely monitor their child’s usage of the net and must also keep a tab on the timings.They must allow their child to use the net for not more than an hour everyday,unless it is being used for homework or projects.This supervision must also not be too close, lest the child becomes rebellious or is curious to surf beyond what they can .Teach your child some safety precautions like not interacting with strangers or giving away personal details.

The Internet has created with the aim of making the world one large place and offering first-hand information and insight into various themes from all over the world.It has grown so much more and has become a commercial hub today.But it still continues to be the most helpful instrument to have been known to mankind.


By –

Nidarshana Sharma

Balancing between the Motherhood and CareerIt is every woman’s dream to marry and have a beautiful family. She aspires to be a good mother to her children and give them all the happiness in the world and spend time with them.

However, lately there has been a surge in the number of women working and pursuing a serious career. They don’t have time for anything else but their work. Their lives center around their workplace and everything else becomes secondary. Though, women are largely known to be good multi-taskers, they’re unable to.

In such a scenario, how can a woman be a good mother to her children? An increasing percentage of women rely on nannies, governesses and creches to take care of their children. But nothing or nobody can be substitute for a mother. Often, children in such cases, feel neglected and ignored. This affects their esteem and confidence. As a result, they become defensive and aggressive.

Today, a number of husbands are taking the initiative and supporting their busy wives. They don’t mind staying at home and spending time with their children. But there are still a lot of men, who believe the wife must watch over the kids.

A few tips to maintain the right balance between your job and your family

  • Time management is the key. It is very important to maintain a schedule and work according to it.
  • Don’t bring much of your office work home. It can be a spoiler.
  • When at home, spend as much time talking to your children and helping them out with their school work.
  • Make sure the children are engaged in some activity but at the same time also are not hard-pressed for time.
  • Play a lot of games with your family, both indoor and outdoor.
  • You could sometimes take them to your workplace. Some offices do have a separate cabin for children of working women and they can spend time with other children.
  • Hire a maid to do the household chores. This will give you more time with the kids.

In addition, take your children out. Socialize, meet your friends and relatives frequently and keep your children around people often.

More women these days are okay with taking time off work for a few months and taking care of their children. Once the child has settled into the groove, they gradually resume their work. This shift, though a risky one, is now being widely accepted.


{November 11, 2010}   How to handle a toddler?

by – Nidarshana Sharma

Toddlers are the most entertaining lot of children. They are too young to know much and slightly old to be babies. But they sure areHow to handle a toddler very smart kids. They also are the ones who create havoc wherever they go. Scribbling on the walls, pouring juice over your favourite upholstery, they’ll do whatever they wish to.

Most toddlers are not just highly spirited and energetic but also eager to learn. They love listening to any kind of story, whether real or fictitious. Some of them also enjoy talking and sharing their experiences with us. The worst part of having a toddler around is, some toddlers can be very troublesome when they’re upset about something.

As parents, you need to work hard to keep your toddler happy and secure. Give them more attention especially if you’re away the whole day. Let them meet more people of your family, your friends, colleagues etc. A better way of knowing relatives or even your parents is showing them photographs of everyone , especially before their visit.

Be clear and consistent with the rules you’ve set for them . If lunch time is at 12:30, then they must eat everyday in time. You cannot relax that rule so as to watch T.V.If execused for one day they may demand for an extension every day.

Show your love for them .Cuddle them before they go to sleep. Kiss them off to school. Play with them. This way they will feel loved and that will reassure them.

Sometimes, toddlers love doing things on their own. So let them make their own sandwich or let them write on their own. Though it might be messy, the sense of independence and achievement that they will experience is priceless.

Keep their weaknesses in mind. If your toddler is very messy at the table, then it’s advisable not to go to a restaurant. Plan a picnic instead- get in other families and their kids so that your toddler can enjoy their  food, in the true sense.

Understand their feelings. Sometimes, we have to stay at a certain place and toddlers can become impatient. Try reasoning with them. Tell them you don’t want to stay either but that it is important. While you can’t expect them to understand immediately, it’ll help you empathize with your child.

Make sure to reward them  for good behaviour. If you’ve promised your kid that extra scoop of double choco-chip ice-cream for spending less time at the bath tub, then keep your word . If they behave well at a friend’s house or if not  make sure you let them know.

Don’t expect them to support you in your routine every day. From day care and then back home and again to the store in the evening can take a toll on your toddler. It is okay if you make slight alterations in your routine for them.

Make sure to take care of yourself in the process. When you’re toddler is sleeping, go, take a nap or a bubble bath instead of washing the dishes. Only if you’re healthy ,you can take good care of your child.

{November 11, 2010}   Trying to be the perfect parent

By –

Nidarshana Sharma

Isn’t it a great feeling when your children proudly declare, “I have the best mom and dad in the entire world”. It brings to light notTrying to be the perfect parent. just how much they love you, but also how much you have succeeded as a parent. It indicated how much effort you have put in to keep your children happy and how much attention you have paid to their every little whim and fancy.

Being a parent is not an easy task. And being the perfect parent is even tougher. It is not impossible though. It just requires that extra percentage of dedication and commitment from you. After all, our lives would have no meaning if our children weren’t happy.

Is it easy to be the perfect parent? It most certainly is. Being the perfect parent is all about being the perfect guide to your children. Whether it is loving them, feeding them, teaching them or even learning from them, do it perfectly. All of us do want to do everything in our might for our children. But unfortunately, we have too many constraints which bind us. Whether it is time or health, there is always a reason that stops us from continuing our race to be the perfect parent. But that doesn’t make it difficult. It’s just that there are constantly many hurdles which we need cross to get to the end.

Remember, it isn’t enough if you buy your kids expensive gifts or take them out every day or go fishing with them. While these are undoubtedly to be done by all of us, we must make an attempt to get to know our child and making them a lovable and decent person. Not just that, we must try to understand them, talk to them and be their friend. Your child must never feel shy or scared about confiding in you. They must be capable of sharing everything with you because only then will they know that they have you for support. Listen to your child patiently and do not form judgments. You also talk to your him/her about your day at work or your lazy boss or that fat lady crossing the road. This will strengthen the bond that you share which will continually get bigger and stronger.

As a parent, you must recognize your child’s talents and strengths. Always encourage your child. Don’t label. Try not use names like good-for-nothing, ruffian, shabby, stubborn, argumentative etc. This will either make your child more rebellious or push him/her away from you. Instead, try reasoning with him/her and patiently make him/her understand the value of good behavior and morals.

Make your child read books and magazines. Provide him/her with various positive and useful inputs. Buy him/her interesting games which are not only fun but also can sharpen his/her mind. Play games or sports with him/her and try to be as competitive as you can. Monitor your child’s activities and friends circle. Restrict the usage of internet and make sure he/she accesses it only when you are around.

Being the parent is all about showing that you care in the right way. So show your child that he has the perfect mom and dad.

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-BY Nidarshana Sharma

The tensions surrounding work are many. Pleasing the boss, being on time, finishing pending work, competing with colleagues. In addition, when you go back home, chances are high that your family complains of you not spending enough time with them. You’re labeled as an inconsiderate person who doesn’t care about the family. This accusation gets slightly intense when you are a woman.

Balancing between career and family is itself, a big task. On top of that it is also vital to be spending an equal amount of time with the family and your spouse. The essence of marriage is keeping the spirit of love alive and kicking. And that can be done only by spending good time with your spouse.

Reserve certain days of the week for your family. Weekends are meant for the family. Do not entertain any other engagements that day. That way you can spend unadulterated, quality time with your family. Take them out. Go on a holiday with them. Or just stay indoors and watch a movie with your kids. The idea is to be with them and make them feel loved and wanted.

The problem is that women are expected to take care of their kids’ wants and also keep their in-laws happy. They buy gifts for the children, plan outings, birthday parties. So in many ways, they are closer to the family. The problem arises when women choose to take their careers very seriously. The father is anyway, away working and when the mother also doesn’t stay at home, the kids start feeling neglected. To overcome this problem, try working from home. Go pick the kids up from school. You could enroll them in classes so that you get some time for yourself. Make sure you and your spouse, jointly show interest in your children’s lives. Talk to them, interact with them and try to find out about what’s happening in their lives. Try not to get too much of your work home because that can really turn your family off.

Make sure to spend time for yourself. Read books and listen to music, go for a walk. These activities relax your mind.

Spending time with your spouse is also an important aspect of marriage. Take out time for each other. Meet for lunch or go shopping together. Make sure to be back home for dinner and have dinner with your family. Go for a date together or take off on a short holiday. A nice, long road trip with interesting tit-bits to catch up on will surely make for an interesting outing. It is essential to keep the romance from fading. Many relationships fail because the couple is unable to stop themselves drifting apart from each other. In the process, their lives become independent of each other. So always keep in mind to do those little things for your family and your spouse which shows that you care for them and will always love them and care for them.

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