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by – Nidarshana Sharma

inculcate internet awareness in kidsThe Internet is today’s most widely used medium worldwide.Everyperson has a connection with the Internet.They use it to connect with their closed one’s,for shopping,for sending greetings across the globe.For any job under the sun,all of us depend on the Internet.It has become the most powerful tool for the many.

Taking the Internet’s omnipresence into consideration,it is essential that we also teach our children to use this wonderful device.Albeit the utility of the Internet,it is also the most over exploited medium,which makes it unsafe for use by children,who are very tender and sensitive.A child’s reception is much stronger than that of an adult’s and they are incapable of distinguishing between the right and the wrong stimuli,which can lead to disastrous consequences.Thus, we must be very cautious while exposing our children to stuff on the net.

What needs to be told to them is the vast network that the Internet has created around the world.Thousands of new sites are born everyday which contains vast amount of information.On the contrary,there are also websites which can be of harm to your child, from which they are to be protected.

A large number of encyclopedias have online versions,which consists of interesting facts.Some websites also provide tutorials in math,grammar and other subjects with much fun.The Internet is also chockablock with games and other activities which aid in enhancing your child’s intelligence.These must be introduced to them.At the same time,you must also ensure that your child does not become addicted to them.

The Internet has been a boon to many individuals and families alike.In many home,it has played the role of a teacher or a baby-sitter or even a guide.However,much criticism has been hurled at it.For starters,it has been criticized of making children lazy and lethargic.It has also been accused of exposing the child to abusive content.A virtual world which is more like fantasy has been thrown open to children who quite unmindfully have become a part of it and have slowly been forgetting the real world.

In order to overcome these problems,it is important for the parents to explain both the pros and cons of overusing the Internet,to their child.They must closely monitor their child’s usage of the net and must also keep a tab on the timings.They must allow their child to use the net for not more than an hour everyday,unless it is being used for homework or projects.This supervision must also not be too close, lest the child becomes rebellious or is curious to surf beyond what they can .Teach your child some safety precautions like not interacting with strangers or giving away personal details.

The Internet has created with the aim of making the world one large place and offering first-hand information and insight into various themes from all over the world.It has grown so much more and has become a commercial hub today.But it still continues to be the most helpful instrument to have been known to mankind.

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by – Nidarshana Sharma

How to identify if your child has an inferiority complex?We all want our children to be self-confident and content. We want them to make good friends and learn from others. We want them to interact with people of different backgrounds so that they understand others better. We want them to sharpen their skills and constantly improvise and strive to be the best. In a nutshell, we want our children to stand out and be a winner.

Quite unfortunately, while most of us know what we want of our children, often we fail to realize how they can go about getting to the top. We do recognize that our child must be encouraged to open up but we don’t see how we can do it. Being a winner is not just about building your strengths, but it also means identifying and rectifying your weaknesses. As a parent, how can you ensure that your child is walking on the right path? You need to analyze your child’s core weaknesses and help him/her overcome them.

Many children have many different kinds of shortcomings. One could be short-tempered and the typical tantrum-throwing child, while the other could simply be disinterested in everything. The most problematic among these is breeding an inferiority complex.

What is an inferiority complex? It is a feeling in one’s mind that he/she is inferior to others in some way. It is natural for us to feel inferior to some people due to various reasons. But an inferiority complex is an extended feeling of discouragement which is not easy to overcome. Often when we feel inferior, we compensate for it by working harder and pushing ourselves to the brim to achieve something. This gives a feeling of accomplishment and we feel good and confident about ourselves. But a person who suffers from a complex may not be in the right state of mind to walk that extra mile to prove himself/herself. In the process, he/she might start pretending to be very confident or just get into a shell.

An inferiority complex could have many causes. A child may be a victim of domestic or emotional abuse. Also before a child turns six, they has very high retention power. Whatever the child is taught then, he/she grows up to remember that. If you reprimand your child regularly or taunt/ mock him/her or constantly point out his/her shortcomings, it is likely that the child feels low about himself/herself. Sometimes, a physical or a mental defect is also a reason to feel inferior. Many a time, social factors also play a role. A girl child who is constantly shunned for being so, may grow up to be very timid and meek.

As parents, we must make sure that however our child is, we must encourage him/her and never let him/her down. Nobody in this world is perfect and we have no right to remind others of their weaknesses when we ourselves are filled with many. If your child is very submissive or scared to talk or socialize then you know that he/she needs to get rid of that inferiority complex. Similarly, if your child is too aggressive or rebellious or over-confident, talk to them her and explain the importance of being confident and sure. Humility and politeness are two traits that you must master and also teach your children. Listen to your children, let them do their own thing, show them cartoons or read to them stories about bravery and boldness. Teach them to be straightforward and open. Be nice to them and never discourage them. Do not call them names but be as positive as you can. When your child is surrounded by a cheerful and positive environment, they will surely be infected by it and be a star!

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{November 11, 2010}   Trying to be the perfect parent

By –

Nidarshana Sharma

Isn’t it a great feeling when your children proudly declare, “I have the best mom and dad in the entire world”. It brings to light notTrying to be the perfect parent. just how much they love you, but also how much you have succeeded as a parent. It indicated how much effort you have put in to keep your children happy and how much attention you have paid to their every little whim and fancy.

Being a parent is not an easy task. And being the perfect parent is even tougher. It is not impossible though. It just requires that extra percentage of dedication and commitment from you. After all, our lives would have no meaning if our children weren’t happy.

Is it easy to be the perfect parent? It most certainly is. Being the perfect parent is all about being the perfect guide to your children. Whether it is loving them, feeding them, teaching them or even learning from them, do it perfectly. All of us do want to do everything in our might for our children. But unfortunately, we have too many constraints which bind us. Whether it is time or health, there is always a reason that stops us from continuing our race to be the perfect parent. But that doesn’t make it difficult. It’s just that there are constantly many hurdles which we need cross to get to the end.

Remember, it isn’t enough if you buy your kids expensive gifts or take them out every day or go fishing with them. While these are undoubtedly to be done by all of us, we must make an attempt to get to know our child and making them a lovable and decent person. Not just that, we must try to understand them, talk to them and be their friend. Your child must never feel shy or scared about confiding in you. They must be capable of sharing everything with you because only then will they know that they have you for support. Listen to your child patiently and do not form judgments. You also talk to your him/her about your day at work or your lazy boss or that fat lady crossing the road. This will strengthen the bond that you share which will continually get bigger and stronger.

As a parent, you must recognize your child’s talents and strengths. Always encourage your child. Don’t label. Try not use names like good-for-nothing, ruffian, shabby, stubborn, argumentative etc. This will either make your child more rebellious or push him/her away from you. Instead, try reasoning with him/her and patiently make him/her understand the value of good behavior and morals.

Make your child read books and magazines. Provide him/her with various positive and useful inputs. Buy him/her interesting games which are not only fun but also can sharpen his/her mind. Play games or sports with him/her and try to be as competitive as you can. Monitor your child’s activities and friends circle. Restrict the usage of internet and make sure he/she accesses it only when you are around.

Being the parent is all about showing that you care in the right way. So show your child that he has the perfect mom and dad.

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Nidarshana Sharma

Oct-22-2010

-by Nidarshana Sharma

We all want our children to be self-confident and content. We want them to make good friends and learn from others. We want them to interact with people of different backgrounds so that they understand others better. We want them to sharpen their skills and constantly improvise and strive to be the best. In a nutshell, we want our children to stand out and be a winner.

Quite unfortunately, while most of us know what we want of our children, often we fail to realize how they can go about getting to the top. We do recognize that our child must be encouraged to open up but we don’t see how we can do it. Being a winner is not just about building your strengths, but it also means identifying and rectifying your weaknesses. As a parent, how can you ensure that your child is walking on the right path? You need to analyze your child’s core weaknesses and help him/her overcome them.

Many children have many different kinds of shortcomings. One could be short-tempered and the typical tantrum-throwing child, while the other could simply be disinterested in everything. The most problematic among these is breeding an inferiority complex.

What is an inferiority complex? It is a feeling in one’s mind that he/she is inferior to others in some way. It is natural for us to feel inferior to some people due to various reasons. But an inferiority complex is an extended feeling of discouragement which is not easy to overcome. Often when we feel inferior, we compensate for it by working harder and pushing ourselves to the brim to achieve something. This gives a feeling of accomplishment and we feel good and confident about ourselves. But a person who suffers from a complex may not be in the right state of mind to walk that extra mile to prove himself/herself. In the process, he/she might start pretending to be very confident or just get into a shell.

An inferiority complex could have many causes. A child may be a victim of domestic or emotional abuse. Also before a child turns six, they has very high retention power. Whatever the child is taught then, he/she grows up to remember that. If you reprimand your child regularly or taunt/ mock him/her or constantly point out his/her shortcomings, it is likely that the child feels low about himself/herself. Sometimes, a physical or a mental defect is also a reason to feel inferior. Many a time, social factors also play a role. A girl child who is constantly shunned for being so, may grow up to be very timid and meek.

As parents, we must make sure that however our child is, we must encourage him/her and never let him/her down. Nobody in this world is perfect and we have no right to remind others of their weaknesses when we ourselves are filled with many. If your child is very submissive or scared to talk or socialize then you know that he/she needs to get rid of that inferiority complex. Similarly, if your child is too aggressive or rebellious or over-confident, talk to them her and explain the importance of being confident and sure. Humility and politeness are two traits that you must master and also teach your children. Listen to your children, let them do their own thing, show them cartoons or read to them stories about bravery and boldness. Teach them to be straightforward and open. Be nice to them and never discourage them. Do not call them names but be as positive as you can. When your child is surrounded by a cheerful and positive environment, they will surely be infected by it and be a star!

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